Grief Counseling
Here at Cornerstone Family Therapy, we do not believe that grief and all the pain it entails is required to get over the loss of a loved one. In fact, we do not believe that one should get over this person’s loss.
There is a strong bond that keeps us attached to that person. Therefore, many people who have gone through grief can feel a deep connection with the person who has passed away. Grief also needs healing, and we can help you through the feelings of pain and suffering that this process can bring.
Forgetting seems to be the goal of most people going through this difficult situation. But we are not like most traditional grief therapists. We do not believe that it is essential to suffer in order to heal.
After all, the person who has passed away clearly doesn’t want your projects to be stuck. They want you to feel connected to them and be happy that your relationship goes beyond death.
Our mission is to help you move in the direction in which you and your loved one can continue your journey in an uplifting way.
If you are going through painful grief, especially if it involves a traumatic situation, you are likely to feel different conflicting emotions.
We do not want to force you to accommodate our proposals. We can accommodate your needs and your unique approach to this process.
We will help you discover the best methods to get through this experience using evidence-based therapies that fit your needs.
With our support, you will develop coping strategies to work through your anger, sadness, and disappointment to regain peace of mind and emotional comfort.
What is Grief?
Grief is the response expected after losing something or someone. It’s an intense and overwhelming emotion that comes after a loss. It is not necessarily related to the death of a person we love.
It can appear when we no longer see someone important in our lives when we let go of a project that we put a lot of effort into, or even after hearing the diagnosis that this loved one has received.
Grief can make us feel numb, disconnected from our daily activities, and unable to go on with our lives as if nothing were happening.
Grief goes through several stages, so those going through this process mustn’t try to control what is happening. It is normal to experience anger, guilt, despair, and sadness. However, it does not have to be an overly painful experience. Boise grief counseling can help you through the process.
How to Overcome Grief
Celebrate Your Loved One’s Life
Losing a loved one is one of the most painful experiences anyone can face, making it seem impossible at times to move on with our lives. As you face grief, it is essential that you learn to incorporate this grieving episode into your life.
Here at Cornerstone Family Therapy, we do not believe in avoiding the memory of the deceased to overcome grief. Remembering and celebrating that person’s life is an important part of the process.
This person has brought something unique and unparalleled to the world with their presence. Honoring their passage in life makes this loss valuable while giving meaning to your personal journey.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
One other thing to keep in mind, avoiding your feelings will not make the process any more pleasant. Grief is intrinsic to the loss and will come knocking at your door sooner or later.
Acknowledge the sadness, anger, guilt, remorse, and all the other emotions related to the loss of your loved one. Some people even feel a sense of relief, especially if the deceased is going through a painful illness.
Remember that all of these emotions are a natural part of the grieving process. Acknowledging them will make the experience less painful.
Accept That Grief is Unpredictable
No one is prepared to lose a loved one. That is a fact. Grief is unpredictable and this is what makes us feel most out of control.
You are probably a composed and rational person, but now you find yourself crying at unexpected times or triggered by irrelevant situations. Welcome to the grieving process.
Emotions can be overwhelming, especially when they reach intense peaks, but it’s normal. Sometimes you think you can disappear in the midst of these tides, but you will not.
Remember that there is no specific time to get over your loss. Grief is unique to each person experiencing it. The more you want to avoid these feelings and stay in control, the more painful and difficult it will be to navigate this process.
Take Care of Yourself
Last but not least, take care of yourself. The grief process is intense and can interfere with your personal needs. Some people think that taking care of themselves is irrelevant at such times, but it is actually crucial.
Don’t push yourself to fulfill all your responsibilities and objectives for a while. Understandably, you may not be able or want to do your best in this context. Allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Get in Touch
If you are going through a painful grief experience and need tools and support to get through it, Cornerstone Family Therapy is here to help.
You don’t need to suffer and miss important stages of your life to get through this challenging time. Our team is trained to teach you invaluable tools that will help you strengthen your connection with your loved one. Instead of feeling that you lost them, you will gain a valuable lesson for the rest of your life.
